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perhaps, a good ending caused a better start (part two)

*eyes closed*



*eyes opened*

where were we? oh. day two of TOF. ok. let's continue. :)

Dec 25th, 2011

since the former day ended unpleasantly for us the three sisters, we did our best to make the next day better. :) expecially i myself because i.. i was like the planner. hu. still, we knew what Allah's fixed for us would be the best. :) have faith.

about 7.30 a.m., we're ready to go down. i'd arranged something with a teacher that used to be teaching us generally, me to be specific. mlmh Zantinita. :) it's been quite a time i didn't chat with her, exchange news with her... :) i keep updating about her thru her blog. :) i do stalk people i love. ok? ha. ha. ok.


therefore, after done the payment thingy with AI, and shake-hand-and-hug with her, her mom, sister and others, we went down. just few seconds later, our mlmh arrived. :) with her Kenari. she brought us to which Presint, i don't remember, but, there's a pool there. :) she treated us. XD so, i chose hot cook (read: masakan panas) XD Yiba took soto, Lala took moi (nasi air? bubur?), i took lontong. we had a good conversation. thinking backwardly about the conversation, i felt i'm a grown-up girl. :D we talked about working world... working sectors; govt & private... our mlmh had experienced both sectors.. and i'm in training with govt sect and my elder sis and younger
sis are in private sect training. ^__^ it also realized me how fast time passed... urm. maybe not about the speed of time passing over me, but time has passed thru a long path... just enough for us to have an adult conversation. :) one more but, no marriage topic. :)

then, mlmh sent us to PICC with another promise to have lunch together if there's nothing up.

we went straight to the workshop with Dr. Har. :) i wasn't enthusiasistic, b'coz i think that i'd attended her talk once in the year before... he. that proud me. i did my best to enjoy the talk! :) alhamdulillah, i did it!

there're numbers of question in me answered too! :) Women in the eyes of God; where do they stand?

dr. Har said, stay tall and proud,

Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has Faith, verily, to him will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions.
(The Bee, 16:97)


And their Lord hath accepted of them, and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be lost the work of any of you, be he male or female: Ye are members, one of another: Those who have left their homes, or been driven out therefrom, or suffered harm in My Cause, or fought or been slain,- verily, I will blot out from them their iniquities, and admit them into Gardens with rivers flowing beneath;- A reward from the presence of Allah, and from His presence is the best of rewards."
(The Family of 'Imran, 3:195)

within the sphere of life; seeking knowledge and partners,

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
(The Romans, 30:21)


By (the mystery of) the creation of male and female;- Verily, (the ends) ye strive for are diverse.
(The Night, 92:3-4)

we; WOMEN.. ok.. just in case u don't feel u're a woman, yet ladies. *LOL* anything.. girl.. female... we're important! we're in the MDG (Millenium Development Goals)!! we're in the 5th place. what say you? ;) ok. that MDG especially for mothers, it's related to maternity. XD u do wanna be a mother, am i right? he. ok. u're not if u're a male. =.=

sacred position of mothers. :)

women in the eyes of men... how men look at women? it depends on how the women themselves view themselves. :) here's the analogy of durian and cucumber.. ok.. i dun really remember 'bout this analogy. XD ostrich attitude. i forgot bout this three. u may google it.

our baseline is 165 if it's interpreted based on ESQ model. the ego should be lowering, and the izzah should be enhancing. :)

women are like the sun... why? because sun is one of energy sources. :)
sakinah = mawaddah + rahmah
after dr. har's slot, we went up to the plenary hall. Dr. Maszlee Malik was on the stage. i like his English speech. :D it doesn't sound too Malaysian. kui. okayy~ it's about Unity in Diversity. i didn't really jot down something during his speech since when i got to be in the hall, it's already half of his lecture. :)

afterwards, we'd Boona Mohammed's performance. hmm.. then Sh. Navaid Aziz's lecture again. his topic was Our Youth the Foundations of an Examplary Community. there're number of things in a list... and in his page,

Here are 10 ten topics you should discuss with your potential spouse before you get married. Keep in mind that you are looking for compatibility and not a direct replica of yourself (Seriously, what fun would that be? :P). 1- Religion, 2- Finances, 3- Family, 4- Education, 5- Kids, 6- Employment, 7- The future, 8- The past, 9- Habits and hobbies, 10- Health. Also please read the link below.

*ok. frankly speaking i'd lost my interest to share... but i will finish this draft till the end!! o yeah! o yeah!

ok. finance. earn money... don't keep only for yourself!!! spend them in the way of Allah! ;)

ok. Sh. Hussein Yee again after that. hmm... i didn't really focus. ok. i just can't recall. :( but then, there's 'bout answering salam... :) and
la dhirar wa la dhirar..
next, Dr. Bilal Philips; Education for Life, not for Living. do u understand? u're studying ICT is not because u want to really earn money from it. do u get it? :D

seeking knowledge is religious obligation. make-up our mind now!
Proclaim! (or read!) in the name of thy Lord and Cherisher, Who created- Created man, out of a (mere) clot of congealed blood: Proclaim! And thy Lord is Most Bountiful,- He Who taught (the use of) the pen, -Taught man that which he knew not.
(The Clot, 96:1-5)

they're useless knowledge too. hm... :) and his words;
gynecology; men don't go!
engineering; women don't go!

last part; goal of education is for???



convey knowledge.

next; Sh. Alaa El-Sayed with his topic; Exemplary Women of the Past.

love them for the sake of Allah! :) ; u'll be with who you love.

power of love, i would say. :D

this lecture, haha. men and women were smashed!! why? ok. look at Khadijah. when Rasulullah p.b.u.h (s.a.w) received the first wahy from Allah via Jibril... he went home.. there, Khadijah comforted him. relate to our life,
women (Wives), does your husband run to you or run away from you?
fathers were asked... do your children run to you or run away from you?


next; Sh. Yahya Ibrahim. :) the title was Allah's Beloved.

three main points;
inspire others
make a change
connect with Allah

then, dr. Tawfiwue Chowdhury with the topic, Allah in the Hearts, World in the Hands + The Balanced Nation (wasato?)

Ye are the best of peoples, evolved for mankind, enjoining what is right, forbidding what is wrong, and believing in Allah. If only the People of the Book had faith, it were best for them: among them are some who have faith, but most of them are perverted transgressors.
(The Family of 'Imran, 3:110)

p/s: i'll try my best to share 'bout my next experience; 1k1

p/s2: i was disappointed when my favourite author's comment opposed mine. huahhhh~ :( *gedix

p/s3: i'll try my best to update current life too.

p/s4: i'm quite ashamed for the contest at the facebook i'd joined.. err.. b'coz it enquires me to mencapub... @.@

p/s5: changing name and profile picta at facebook made me feel 'young' again. it brought me to that zone (baca: daerah itu) again... =)

p/s6: just finished Nuansa Kota Merah. this piece of Khairyn Othman is very different from Zahrah de Tigris and Dame Zoete Sarah. too long with the historical... XD but, i too felt like touring Granada in two different times! (baca: zaman).

p/s 7: this entry has been drafted for almost two weeks in the notepad!

p/s 8: mlmh stands for mu'allimah which means teacher. :)


perhaps, a good ending caused a better start (part one)

it's a good holiday. ok. i rather type it's the best break i ever had, even i'd been whining it's bored in the first 4 weeks of it.

the first four weeks i was searching for something until i wrote previous entry. damn meself. ok. the purpose of this entry is to share something good for me
which are Twins of Faith (TOF) and Himpunan 1000 Jiwa and 1 Hati (1k1). :)

Dec 23rd, 2011
i departed to KL with my family (ayah, ummi, 'Ali, Muhammad and yummy). we arrived PJS 7 around at 9 p.m.

Dec 24th, 2011
Lala, Yiba and i were dropped at KTM station at Setiajaya. we're late. bianata for AI and family for being waited for us. hu. we're fetch by AI (her mother drove us). we arrived PICC at 10 a.m. or few minutes after 10. met mlmh Sakinah and mlmh Noraini (she'd moved to Kedah!) at registration counter. oh. the moment i was at the parking lot, that was where my handphone began to be not with me. hu. alhamdulillah, i wasn't clumsy (or what) over it. thus, that time i was sure that it's in the car.:) my sisters and i went up to Plenary hall after registered our names for workshop in the evening. i registered for two; with Raya Shorkartfard and ust.Zaharuddin. but i only attended the one with sister Raya. :D hu.

the first talk we listened to was from Sh. Aala. it's about building blocks. wait. hm. it had something to do with family. then, Sheikh related it with right for children where it leaded us to the topic of choosing spouse. :) personally, i was quite excited when he mentioned this because he told us the criteria of good spouse for women. i think i never heard about that yet, instead of i always heard about the criteria in women for men to find. am i right? ah-ha. if i'm not, then i'm not up-to-date i supposed.
the criteria for men = [2 from Qur'an (Qawiy (strong in FAITH (IMAN)) + Al-Amin (trustworthy)] + [2 from sunnah (religious background + moral)
then, we're told about
criterias for friends too; remind you of Allah, guide you to the path of Allah, speech increase your iman.
:) i also wrote,
who you told who you are.
ok, i forgot the meaning. blame me. then we're advised again to help, not to hurt and we too were reminded to remember who you are.
the next speaker was Ust. Zaharuddin, about modern economics and principles. sincerely, i wasn't that enthusiasm about this topic. err.. i listened to it though. and yet, i didn't really jot down something in my desk diary. the written words for this lecture were maqasid shari'ah and
supplication and wealth.

after lunch, there was performance by Shinji Moriwaki and Mu'adz. i wasn't in the hall. -.-

afterwards, we had Sh. Navaid Aziz. Lala and Yiba like him very much. obviously he's cute in a way. ^.^ masha Allah. his topic entitled I'm Muslim and I'm Proud. i'd noted on
and three words;
Knowledge, Action, Relationship.
i can't elaborate these points since i've forgotten them. T^T
there's no paradise for those who don't have iman, not a mu'min until the person loves and no love if you don't spread salaam.
the story of Abdullah ibn Huzafah;
free a nation thru a single kiss.

after Sh. Navaid Aziz's session, we walked out to the room downstairs for the session with Raya. here, i found the same-not-good-attitude of Malaysian. we're given choices; either lecture + Q&A session or documentary (My life with Islam) show + lecture. guess which one was chosen? of coz the one without Q&A session. ha. ha. ok. maybe it's not related to the not-good-attitude because the documentary's said like quite exclusive. hu. it's the story of our sister Raya; how she left Islam and return to it. :) her session entitled Challenges for Working Mom. ha-ha. well, insha Allah, my elder sister is an architect to be in one year, my only younger sister is a nurse to be in two years, and i myself will be 'something' in three years after graduate. and we want to be a mother. ha-ha. thus, the topic is relevant for us, that's the point. yeah~ i like what Raya shared with us. hu. and i found an answer thru the talk. u remember, that in the past break, i was searching for job and i just couldn't find one. one of questions to be pondered from Raya was
can you maintain your muslim dignity at work?
:) and based on her experience of losing her children because of her workaholic-ism, she advised us to
never ever bring works at home.
it's a big NO. unless u want to lose ur family. she showed us pictures and slides... hm. Allah makes it easy for us.

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).
(Women, 4:34)

then, after maghrib break, Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips took over the stage in the Plenary hall. his talk was on Islamic Culture or Cultural Islam? what's the different?
Islamic culture is the culture that is encouraged by Islam to be practised by us based on the Quran and the sunnah.
cultural Islam refers to the action of practising other culture which is not in the Quran and sunnah, but then, it became synonymous with Islam.
there're four main points; pre islamic culture, adopted culture & religious fanaticists. ok, i lost one point; the third. new things i learnt; about bride-burning. then, here we're told about Islam can't be inherited. Islam means the submission to the will of Allah. just like the song Iman Mutiara by Raihan lah. :)

the last talk for the first day was by Sh. Hussein Yee. Sheikh prefers to use the term "not yet muslim" for those who're not yet a muslim because of the hadith every child born as a muslim. oh. his topic was One Faith, One Family. we're bonded by aqidah. and he kept emphasising on Islam is for all humankind. it's not only for Arab people nor only Malay nor only for slave nor anything that can discriminate us. in the khutbah wida', the prophet Muhammad s.a.w used the term ayyuhannas. Nas - people generally. then, syaitan believe in Allah and never syirik. human? hu.


Allah created us different, but we're not promoting those differences! we're one family! :)

lastly, we had Boona Mohammed performance. :)

will be continued...